How to Deal with Useless Criticism

Some criticism you get is in poor taste. We must know how to deal with criticism such as: "You look horrible today" or, "You left this my way, you idiot." Make sure this kind of criticism useless, follow these steps.

Agree With The Facts
Agree with the facts the other person presents. For example, in response to "You look horrible today," Say, "I haven't been feeling too well lately"; in response to "You left this in my way, you idiot," Say, "Yes, I did leave it in your way." Answer only what was actually said, not what was implied.

How To Answer
Stay calm and collected during the whole conservation. Don't lose your temper. The only way a person will make you feel degraded is if you degrade yourself. You don't want to waste your time with this type of person, so don't defend yourself or attach him.

If You Made A Mistake
If you made a mistake, accept that fact. Don't accept the quilt for the mistake. If you were in error, then apologize. If you apologize, don't make a big thing out of it. Don't tell them how dreadfully sorry you are, etc. Just give them a plain "I'm sorry".

"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give." - Winston ?Churchill

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How to Deal with Important Criticism

When you get important criticism, you want to know to get the best out of it. Useful criticism is one of the best ways to make yourself into a better person. Follow these steps to get the most out of useful criticism.

Ask For Feedback
Find out exactly what others object to about you. If someone tells you "You are bad," that's not good enough. Find out exactly why that person thinks that way. Be very persistent -- Find out why the other person feels the way he does. Vague criticism is worthless to you.

Guess At Reason
If a person refuses to give you reasons for criticizing you, keep guessing at your faults until you get the right one. This may be the only way to find out what displease the other person.

Don't Be Defensive
If you act defensively, you may not be able to benefit from useful criticism. Don't be sarcastic or intimidate the other person. You want to learn how to become a better person from the criticism.

Ask the person how you can change your objectionable behavior; be open to reasonable suggestions.

"Work for something because it is good, not just because it stands a chance to succeed." - Vaclav Havel

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Tips On Dealing With Career Issues

• Know yourself, assess your strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes
• Don't let others decide what's best for you
• Set your own goals and pursue them, but remain flexible
• Keep in mind where you want to be 10 years hence
• Stay focused
• Don't be a perfectionist
• Maintain a positive outlook. Don't dwell on setbanks - move on.
• Ask for what you need - be clear about what you have to offer
• Learn to say "no"
• Use mentors wisely - get support from colleagues
• Network and become visible within and beyond your institution
• Find places where employees have stayed and are happy
• Talk to other employees
• Look ate critical mass, turnover, promotion, not just hiring
• Avoid hostile environments
• Choose a supportive mate or partner
• Try to move to metroplitan area with multiple employers
• Be willing to accept help with home and children
• Find a solution that is right for YOU and YOUR loved ones.

REMEMBER: ONE STYLE DOES NOT FIT ALL!

"I'm a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it" - Thomas Jefferson

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